In other words, here we find the palpable proof of how much we love God – by loving our brothers! But mind that this love for our brothers (children, parents, husband or wife) does not reach the level of idolatry! What does idolatry mean? To put the ones whom you love above everything, above God. God should always be on the first place.
Be kind with everybody but especially with your wife. Avoid considering whether her complaints are true or not. Care only about one thing: avoid making her sad, maintain peace in your home so that she would give you all her attention and you shall confess her all your sorrows so that you may find in her the consolation needed.