We love each other because we bloom together, we grow together. I become more a woman and you more a man and we feel God better.

“How can I stop thinking that the man I love will start seeing my flaws and weaknesses and will stop loving me?”

“Show your flaws to him since the beginning. When he looks at you and is interested in you tell him: ‘Wait, close your eye because there is more’. And close your eyes as well. And after you finish what you have to say he is still there, interested in you not because of his passions you can start loving him. Otherwise don’t.”

But be careful, there is no need for you to tell the story of your past life as a soap opera with characters and details. This will fuel the imagination of the other person and will not be able to see you the way you are. Tell him how you react when you are mad, when you are scared, how you control your passions and how you act, etc.

Do not be scared! True love has nothing to do with this. We are not loved for our virtues and hated for our flaws but for how we “manage” them. Our talents are our qualities and flaws.

We love each other because we bloom together, we grow together. I become more a woman and you more a man and we feel God better.

(Translation from Nun Siluana Vlad, Deschide Cerul cu lucrul mărunt, Editura Doxologia, Iași, 2013, p. 199)