How should you act with those who lie but accuse you of not trusting them?

 

Accept what they say without believing them, without judging them, without saying anything. Just pray “Lord have mercy, make her (him) understand that what he says is not true”. But do this without telling them anything and in a week things will be different.

Well, of course that they blame you. Remember to tell them that they blame you. What you shouldn’t tell them is “you’re a liar” because they will tend to defend themselves. Don’t judge them. This is so hard for the human mind. They lie to you, but you shouldn’t judge them. Just say “God, have mercy on them.” They have a reason to lie, maybe because they are afraid, of embarrassed. This is how they were educated.

Accept what they say without believing them, without judging them, without saying anything. Just pray “Lord have mercy, make her (him) understand that what he says is not true”. But do this without telling them anything and in a week things will be different.

Stop defending yourself and if nothing happens in one or two weeks of deep prayer and blessing, discuss about it “Look, this is a problem, a disease of yours, you blame me for it and if you don’t become aware of your problem, and don’t seek for a remedy, we will break up.”

It’s impossible to be happy with a liar, and you need to run away. There is no other solution. Thus, first of all you should try and pray, after which you should talk to them and only then break up with them. Learn how to run away from danger, don’t get yourself caught in traps that make you unhappy. Loneliness is a gift. Being lonely is wonderful, it’s better than being tortured by a relationship or a marriage in which the other one doesn’t want to fight for salvation, or doesn’t want to respect your fight.

(Translated from Monahia Siluana VladDeschide cerul cu lucrul mărunt, Editura Doxologia, Iași, 2013, pp. 177-178)